About

Hi, I’m Iris!

I am a coach based in the Pacific Northwest, USA and I work with clients all over the world. I hope you find something within this website you can take away to improve your relationships, including the relationship you have with yourself.

You can be a source of well-being, even during a divorce or other breakdown, even when it’s hard.

Check out my seasonal qigong and book clubs too!

Conscious Uncoupling Coaching

  • certified coaching and mindful separation guidance
  • a space just for you (see below for intentional small group coaching)
  • a process for anybody: any gender identity, sexuality, or relationship expression undergoing separation and breakdown (usually romantic); queer relationship breakup support
  • specific practices and goals for each session
  • a rekindled sense of self and responsibility
  • fits your schedule

this is not licensed therapy

this is not unstructured talk time

this is not for settling legal matters

“It was a wonderful experience and I am very grateful. I don’t think I would have come this far without your help and support.”

Victoria K
UK

“She has a deep, warm and holding presence. She supported me with compassion and powerful questions.”

Marisa G
MX

There are multiple ways to arrive at this work…

You may be contemplating ending your relationship

You may the one receiving the message that your relationship is over

You may be feeling stuck or processing a prior divorce or breakup

You may be experiencing the unwanted end of a friendship or a job

Pricing

Conscious Uncoupling Certified Coaching

Free Discovery Call

No cost

  • 30 minute phone call
  • Basic personal introductions
  • The principles of Conscious Uncoupling
  • Outline the commitment to the process
  • Payment and scheduling details if we decide to move forward

Sliding Scale Individual Package

$852-$1200

  • 6 sessions spaced out (6 hours total)
  • Working one on one
  • Introduction and Steps 1-5 sessions with specific focus in each one
  • May only be booked after a free Discovery Meet with me
  • Option to add sessions at a lower rate
  • Payment plans available

Sliding Scale Group Coaching Cohorts

$460-$660

  • 6 sessions spaced out (1.5 hour sessions for 9 hours total)
  • Group size cap of 4, with in-depth coaching for 1-2 people per session and real-time feedback for all
  • Introduction and Steps 1-5 sessions with specific focus in each one
  • May only be booked after a free Discovery Meet with me
  • Option to add individual coaching sessions
  • Pay in one or two payments

Payment primer

The payment rules differ based on individual or group coaching. I have tried to make these rules both financially accessible and transparent. For more about my choices and philosophy, visit the FAQ or contact me.

Payment – Individual Coaching

  • Option 1: Pay $160-$200 before each session.
  • Option 2: Pay at once for all 6 group sessions, choosing an amount between $852-$1200.
  • There is mostly overlap between the sliding scales in both options, but a slight per-session discount becomes possible with Option 2.
  • After 6 sessions are paid for, add sessions for $100 each.

Payment – Group Coaching

  • Option 1: Pay in two payments. First payment due before first session, choosing an amount between $230-$330. Then pay again before the start of the fourth session.
  • Option 2: Pay at once for all 6 group sessions, choosing an amount between $460-$660. There’s no discount to paying at once.
  • Group rate is about 50% cheaper than individual coaching. However, cohort timing is subject to sign-ups of a minimum of 3 and max of 5.
  • No option for pay-per-session in group coaching
  • Option to add individual coaching sessions for $100.

Want to join a group to get coached?

Small group cohort

  • certified coaching, mindful separation guidance
  • cap of 5 people, committed to the entire length of coaching
  • guided exercises and real-time feedback
  • specific practices and goals to change core beliefs and behaviors, amicable breakup support
  • a process for anybody: any gender identity, sexuality, or relationship expression undergoing separation and breakdown (usually romantic)
  • a rekindled sense of self and responsibility
  • changing in community

this is not licensed therapy

this is not unstructured talk time

this is not for settling legal matters

this is not group mediation

not everyone will receive one-on-one coaching each time, but coaching happens in front of the whole group as a model and practice

individual one-hour sessions can be added for $100

    • Contact me for coaching

      Get in touch! I’ll get back to you within 2 business days.

    About Me

    I’m a bookish healer with intuitive and practical perspective on wellbeing. I balance the tender attention to reality as it is when it’s painful, and also give mindful separation guidance to step into a new future.

    During my last breakup I realized my part in burying my wholeness and my needs. In the face of prevailing narratives about how relationships should function and especially how they should end, I was aware I needed something different. I wanted to be able to look back and be proud of the steps I took. Conscious Uncoupling™ was a powerful counterweight that rewired the way I saw the choices and changes I needed to make.

    In the aftermath of my breakup I was confused, and about to make the same mistakes of disappearing myself to find or keep love. If I can guide you through this process, I would be honored. I create a space just for you, and stand with you for integrity and love, now and always.

    I’ve always been a seeker for common ground and for spiritual connection, learning from various traditions and becoming a passionate qigong student. What I love about qigong and Conscious Uncoupling™ is the fact that they require each person to be both the patient and the practitioner! It’s work and it’s worth it. Get in touch!

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      • Contact me for coaching

        Get in touch! I’ll get back to you within 2 business days.

      Mobile: +1 (503) 882-9939

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